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Thursday, 16 October 2014 16:24

3 Secrets to Unlocking Your Inspiration



All of us have had those moments where our level of inspiration or momentum towards something is diminished or completely missing. 
Those moments where we may be over stressed, over worked, over stimulated and our momentum feels like it’s running on autopilot, going through the motions to get the day, the month, the year over with.  

It is an uncomfortable feeling and one that comes with this constant niggling at the back of your head creating anxiety, discomfort, aggression ...or complete apathy.  Some of us can shut it off. Some of us can ignore it completely.  And some of us must create movement to feel better.

There are ways we dilute this discomfort perhaps with something that distracts us momentarily like exercise, sex, drugs, food, shopping, or alcohol.  The unfortunate part of this tactic is the release is short lived and we may feel worse off in the long run.

When we are feeling stuck in this loop what are we to do, wish the time away? 

Perhaps.  However until we are willing to take a long hard look at what is happening within and around us, we will continue to feel cut off at the knees. 

There are a multitude of actions we can take to help us create momentum. This may sound great, but when you are in an apathetic place may be very hard to implement. 

Take it slowly.  Stop berating yourself for what you are not. 

What we feed gets bigger, so pay attention to your thoughts and where you are putting your energy.  If you can’t find it within yourself to create inspiration, find someone or something outside of you to spark that flame. 

Here are 3 tips to help:

  • Start a new conversation with someone to bring out your creativity and awareness. 
  • Pick up a book that interests you and spend some time reading it. 
  • Watch some interesting videos on a subject that inspires you.

Inspiration usually comes in the disguise of everyday occurrences.  So stop, look, and listen to what’s around you.  Spend your time, energy, and resources on the things you want instead of reaffirming what you are not.  You may be surprised what you find when you look up and open your eyes.  


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This episode of the Coaching Crucible training is about employing a powerful "Product Pyramid" to help you grow your business. This information is critical, no matter what market you might be in. This hour long training is bursting with helpful information which can help you build a solid foundation for your business. I hope it serves you well!

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Wednesday, 20 August 2014 15:55

The Art and Beauty of Perseverance



per·se·ver·ance
noun

Steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.


You must persevere! This is what I and many others are told when we hit rough times in life and in business. This is easily said by many, well executed by few.

 

Perseverance means different things to different people depending on upbringing, generational differences, overall outlook on life, etc., etc. While I believe it to be true that we should stand tall in the face of obstacles in our path to freedom, success and happiness, I also believe we must utilize a higher-level perspective of these issues. We need to employ own inner wisdom (which we frequently ignore), along with a trusted outside source, and attempt to get some distance from the issue or problem so as to decide if it is worth persevering for. As my friend Robin Rose often asks her audiences “What do you really want?”

 

I got the opportunity to learn this lesson in my own life and business. I will be eternally grateful that I did not get the very thing I was spending the energy to persevere through a few years ago, when I was in a different industry in a horrible economy. At some point I knew it was time to end the pointless perseverance and focus on getting through the upcoming changes that needed to happen so I could focus on building the life and business of my dreams.  It was not easy. I was warned by some that I should stick in out. Listening to my inner voice (and some excellent coaching around what I really wanted out of this short life)made the decision easy.

 

Then came the hard part. The fear. The concerns about stopping what I was doing. Taking the risk to do what I wanted to do. All the emotional, mental, and physically draining things I had to do to prepare and move ahead, were beyond overwhelming. There were many things to test my perseverance - family issues, partnership issues, and money issues, to name a few. Then there was the unexpected loss of support from some friends, whom I thought were true friends. In reality, they were only my friends when it benefitted them. Once that benefit went away with the changes I was making they no longer needed me. I am not going to lie, that one hurt.

 

If you are not happy. If you are searching for something. If you need to change your life and/or business. If you desire to reinvent yourself, I say DO IT!

Below are a few tips to get you started.

 

  • Be thoughtful about your process. It does no good to constantly make changes for the sake of change.
  • Create a plan. Make sure it is what you want and then begin executing that plan. This step alone may take months or even years. Don’t be intimidated, just begin and commit.
  • Hire a gifted coach as your trusted advisor. It is important to have someone who hears you, challenges you, and holds you accountable to your plans. (Make sure your coach has a coach!)
  • Spend time alone each day in quietude. Envision what your life will look like when you fully implement the changes for which you have persevered. Statistics have shown the most successful executives spend 20% of their week envisioning the next level for their organizations.

 

This is a subject that needs much more discussion based on where you are and what you want from your life. It is meant as a discussion starter so please share your thoughts, and stories about your own times of perseverance. It could be invaluable to someone who is unsure of what to do next.

 

If you are persevering just for the sake of it,  the time is at hand to decide on the changes that will bring the outcomes for you to live the happiest, most productive life you can. You will still have ample opportunities to use your perseverance skills. Only this time, those hard-earned skills can be in alignment with what you truly want. To quote Stephen Covey: “Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leaning against the right wall.” 



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Monday, 11 August 2014 13:28

Why Aren't You Listening to ME?


A theme has popped with my clients this week and it is all about communication. 

As human beings we find ourselves in constant relationship with others.  Many times those relationships are thriving and sometimes they are clearly not. 

When you bring this dynamic into the workplace, or our homes, we find ourselves in constant tension between two ends of the spectrum. We don’t communicate well at all or we have a wonderful level of communication.  No matter where you find yourself on this spectrum a few things are important to remember.

  • We all hear things differently.
  • We all see, hear, and feel things through our own lens of perceptions.
  • We all want to be seen and heard.

So many times we try to communicate solely to get our point across. On the surface this seems reasonable but in reality this is the root cause of much misunderstanding. 

If we spend our time communicating to another based on how we like to communicate, we are missing the boat.  We may be talking but who’s to say the other individual or group can hear us at all?  We keep talking around the subject trying to get our point across... with no success. 

The issue with this type of communication is that it is all about us!  WE are so focused on what WE want to say, WE forget that there’s more than one person involved. 

Instead, work on considering who you are speaking to and how they will hear what you have to say. Think: How do they like information presented? 

  • Are they facts and figures individuals who would prefer to have information presented to them on paper, maybe in a graph? 
  • Do they respond to brainstorming with you and talking things through? 
  • Do they want to make decisions quickly and take some form of action without much chit chat?
  • Do they like to have time and space to consider all of the alternatives after the conversation has occurred?

Everyone will be different. Pay attention and observe how your audience, big or small, naturally enjoys communicating. Follow their lead. You will see, feel, and hear amazing shifts, and ultimately… communication success.

 

To your continued success!

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This episode of the Coaching Crucible training is about employing sound business fundamentals to grow your business, no matter what market you might be in. Gary Henson, from BusinessCoach.com, and I presented a version of this to thousands of professionals at the World Business and Executive Coach Summit earlier this summer. I hope it serves you well!

Warmly,

Drayton

You can find out more about me here.

Here's the link to the complimentary video training on our special YouTube Channel:  


*Due to the amazing demand for the complimentary public service training we do each month, we have created a YouTube Channel where you can access all of the previous training webinars dating back to 2012. These are all complimentary. Please subscribe to our channel so that you will be notified automatically when we post new videos. Enjoy!

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Thursday, 17 July 2014 16:48

Five Generations of Challenges


Are you aware that there are now 5 generations in the workforce? Do you know how this impacts your business? 

Never in history has there been a more complicated time for business leaders to deal with the most expensive and important asset in business, human capital. The instant information age has not provided a tidal wave of solutions to problems in the workforce and has sometimes created false beliefs about people, expectations and experience.

Facts:

  • Never in History has there been 5 generations in the workforce at the same time!
  • Never in history has there been a more influential generation then the Millennials or if you prefer, Generation Y.
  • Never in history has there been so much danger in losing institutional knowledge in organizations as generations retire and others advance.
  • Never in history has there been a better time to connect with, and create success from so many different viewpoints on life and business. We need only listen…

We are living in a very dynamic age. Instant information, instant gratification, and real time details being posted to the world in life and business. This is vastly different from how previous generations were raised. The adjustments the older worker needs to make to the impatience from a younger generation create a turbulent devils punchbowl of misunderstandings, communication barriers, hurt feelings, perceived and sometimes a real lack of respect and disconnect.

For business leaders, human resource people and department managers trying to keep it all together between these different factions is becoming more challenging each day. The hours spent on keeping these generations working as an effective team is becoming so intrusive to the core focus of a business that many of these business leaders are not sure what the main focus of their job really is any more.  This is no longer a distraction it is a very big issue that is here to stay. It is becoming the new normal.

Currently, in late 2014, the Millennial generation is the largest demographic at 27% of the workforce in the United States. This number is expected to be 50% by 2020! This coupled with Baby Boomers retiring at a rapid pace, and advancement expectations of many Millennials that are not realistic in the minds of many business leaders is creating a tidal wave of problems on an epic scale. Not only is this an issue in the U.S. but for every country on the planet. We must acknowledge the fact that our lifestyle is changing, business models are changing and we as leaders must change. We must be able to communicate these changes and what they mean, with respect to each generation and its contributions to the world.

See the chart below to orient yourself to the ages of each generation. This is a general guideline and many studies show a slightly different span of years to depict the different generations.

  

 

Silent Generation

Baby Boomers

Generation X

Generation Y

Generation Z

Birth Year

1922-1945

1946-1964

1965-1978

1979-2000

2001-

Age in 2014

92-69

68-51

49-36

35-14

13-

 

Coaching conversations, coupled with a mindful follow up process, are the best steps toward building bridges between generations. Ignoring these issues is the best way to burn those bridges which will cost your business dearly.


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Tuesday, 03 June 2014 16:23

Why is this Happening... AGAIN?!

How many times have you said that in your life?


Perhaps it was around relationships, friendships, health, or work. 

Do you ever find that in one, maybe two, areas of your life you seem to see the same pattern happening? 

Most of us have patterns in our lives - good, bad, or indifferent.  In fact, most of us could be called robotic by nature.

We as human beings move through our lives both consciously (which means in a state of awareness) and unconsciously (which is based on what we’ve memorized or are conditioned to do). 

We become robotic when we are moving through life unconsciously, destined to repeat some of the same experiences over and over again. 

Here are some statistics from the latest research in neuroscience:

  • We work unconsciously (robotically) 95% of our day.
  • We work consciously (deliberately) 5% of our day.
  • We have 60-70,000 thoughts per day.
  • 90% of those thoughts are the same ones you had yesterday.
  • 70-75% of those thoughts are negative.


Think about it. How do you start your day?  Do you have the same basic routine or rhythm to how you get ready?


So why do you ask: Is this happening AGAIN?! 


Because you’ve created it!


Human Beings act based on their conditioning, we become reliant on our experiences. Our minds by nature are repetitive.


In fact, most of our experiences are created to emotionally reinforce the personality we have become so accustom to.  When we are not aware of the stories we have, and the thoughts we create, we will never create a new future.


So what do we do?

  • Start small. 
  • Change things up a little with your routines. 
  • Change your morning routine.
  • Listen to a different radio station.
  • As one of my dear friends likes to do, order a different type of coffee every time you stop for one. 


By creating different experiences you will interrupt the unconscious programming and start to experience things differently. 


Different experiences create different outcomes.


Every step you take towards awareness is a step in the right direction.


Start small and go experience the life you really want! 


To your continued success!

 


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Friday, 25 April 2014 12:34

Is Stress Ruining Your Life?

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After 27 years in business I know how imperative it is to consistently fine tune your offerings for what is relevant for your clients, you and your business. Working as an Executive Coach the needs landscape is constantly changing. Through listening to the needs of our clients we change what we offer in our suite of services accordingly.  One area that is a constant and is consistently on the rise in the world is stress in life and business.

Stress is like an odorless gas. It seeps in and slowly begins to asphyxiate us. Before we know it the symptoms of stress show up in our relationships, work quality, and our physical body. We treat these symptoms in a variety of ways from medicine, to escapism and everything in between.  These treatments however do not take care of stress itself as the core issue.

My colleagues Drayton Boylston, Jenna Forster, and Greg Styles and I at the Executive Coaching University have committed to taking on this stress epidemic. Each of us has our specialties in coaching clientele ranging from high level executives, business owners, women in business, high performance athletes, engaging the millennial workforce and serving fellow coaches. The brain trust at ECU is constantly seeking ways to serve the highest number of people, for the greater good of all, in areas that have the most impact in behavioral change, for the best results in life and business.

Consider these facts:

  • 85% of ALL illness is stress related
  • Depression is projected to be the #2 killer by 2020
  • Managers and executives are 40 times more likely to suffer from heart issues
  • 75% of people wish they had another job
  • 80% of people NEVER use their greatest gifts at work
  • Stress related illnesses are costing organizations over $350 billion a year

 

By attacking the root of this stress issue we are helping our clients find:

  • Peace and relaxation
  • They are enjoying life and work again
  • They are feeling healthier and more motivated
  • Their relationships are stronger with family, friends and co-workers
  • They have discovered “Me Time” in each day
  • Our business leaders are seeing an increase in moral, productivity, and profits

 

Over the next few months we will be offering a one day Oregon Stress Slayer Workshop and a Colorado Stress Slayer Workshop to kick off our dedication to increasing the happiness level in our clients, by reducing stress in our lives and businesses through mindfulness. We want to lessen this common link of stress and replace it with higher quality of living for you! Keep watch for other offerings as we continue to serve the greatest number for the greatest good through coaching. Take the time to invest in yourself and join us to help reduce your stress. It may just save your life!

 

To register for the workshops in Salem, Oregon or Denver, Colorado click the links above. For more information about other locations and dates or to bring us into your organization or city please contact us here: 1.800.251.1696 or email us.

Wednesday, 09 April 2014 11:44

Stress - The Deadly Lie

stress 4.9.14

Stress
: 1) a state of mental tension and worry caused by problems in your life, work, etc.; 2) something that causes strong feelings of worry or anxiety; 3) physical force or pressure (as defined by Merriam-Webster.com)

“Stress” is a word and concept so ubiquitous in our western society that it is difficult not to encounter its specter everywhere you turn.  You will hear “stress” referenced by all ages (I recently heard a 4 year old exclaim “Mom, leave me alone…you’re stressing me out!”), by professionals and amateurs, high and low performers – as an actual thing, a marketing tool, or the reason someone adopted any myriad lifestyle change. 

“Stress” appears to be everywhere, in control of, and laying waste to everyone!  But it doesn’t have to be that way – you do not need to live your life at the whim of this thing we call “stress”!

Here’s my main focus of this entry – you can control “stress”, and all the symptoms we lump into the category of “stress”, because STRESS IS NOT REAL!

Modern day “stress”, the psychological process of feeling overwhelmed or pushed beyond our ability to cope, is a carry-over from the “fight or flight” hard wired system.  This system has been our best defense over eons when faced with threat – turning a corner and running into a lion for instance – it allowed our forebears to stay alive by dumping large amounts of chemicals into our system for the boost we would need in strength, speed, or focus to survive.

Though “stress” is not an actual thing – you cannot show me “stress” or point out a “ stress” – the symptoms of a lifestyle filled with “mental tension” and  “strong feelings of worry or anxiety” are definitely real and negatively impacting life.

Did you know:

  • Researchers tracked women for nearly 40 years and found that those who experienced a greater number of stressors (work problems, divorce, family illness) in middle age were more likely to develop dementia later in life.
  • Experiencing chronic stress triggers the production of inflammatory compounds and damages areas of the brain linked to memory.
  • Symptoms of chronic stress can vary from anxiety, depression, social isolation, headache, abdominal pain or lack of sleep,  to back pain and difficulty concentrating.
  • Other symptoms include: hypertension, hemorrhoids, varicose veins,  panic attacks (or a panic disorder) and cardiovascular diseases.
  • The statistics show 24% of adults now categorize their stress levels as severe – and over half report moderate to high (5 or more on a scale of 10).
  • Family practitioners report that 66% of all doctor visits are for stress related symptoms such as headache, neck pain, irritable bowel syndrome, loss of libido, fatigue, sleeplessness, and even infertility.Stress is more regularly being recognized as a direct precursor to serious medical consequences such as heart disease and certain cancers.
  • People suffering from chronic stress may have difficulty attaining calm without the use of prescriptive medications, distractions (such as shopping and eating) or addictions.

That’s all bad stuff, right?  Of course it is… but because you live a high performing life does not mean you are sentenced to developing those symptoms, or any symptoms other than resiliency, strength, and mental toughness due to this thing called “stress”!

“Stress” is simply the catch all term we use to describe the manner in which we approach the adversity we each experience every day.  And without “stress” we cannot grow beyond who we are right now!


Who determines the working definition of “adversity” in your life?  

You! 

Not your friends, parents, family, co-workers, board, doctor, priest, therapist, television commercials, etc. You and I determine not only the level of disruption this adversity will have on our life, but the manner in which we engage that adversity plays a large part in how that adversity will be resolved.

The impact life events or experiences have on you is up to you!

You have the power to use “stressful” experiences or events to improve your life – leverage that power and take full ownership of your life by using some of the tools below:

  • Breathe!  When you are experiencing “stress” fill your lungs with 5 deep breaths through your nose, exhaling in a controlled manner through your mouth.  Breathing in this manner short circuits the physiologic process that fuels the experience of “stress” and brings your automatic flight or fight response back into your conscious control.
  • Move through the challenge!  When thinking about that event, relationship, experience, task that is creating a stress response answer this question – “What is it you most don’t want to do, but know you should?”…and go do that exact thing!  So much of our stress response is associated with those challenging parts of life we would rather avoid…creating increased tension = stress.  Move through the challenge – doing so always makes you stronger.
  • Embrace discomfort and pain as tools of transformation! For our brains to create new neural connections upon which new behaviors might be built we need to reach…really stretch ourselves to the point of discomfort and/or pain.  Accept that discomfort and/or pain as the process of transformation, knowing you will be “better” on the other side.  Embrace, move through, and emerge stronger and with a higher stress response level.
  • Get outside your own experience! So often our brains become a closed loop circuit with thoughts just bouncing around inside our heads with no reality check coming from outside of ourselves.  Find a trusted individual (a coach, therapist, religious figure often work from a more advantageous perspective than those close to you) you can share those aspects generating a stress response.  Then steel yourself and work with them on developing a strategy to identify, engage, and transform those aspects from sources of weakness to strength.


“Stress” is not the external boogeyman we are led to believe!  “Stress” is a chosen (and often habitualized) set of responses to life – responses to life we choose!

It’s up to you – follow the sheep and helplessly live a life full of “stress” and the health limiting symptoms listed above, or follow your own “stress resistant” course and identify, engage, and emerge from life adversity with a more higher functioning, higher performing you.

 


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Friday, 21 March 2014 13:11

Why Are You So Negative?


Ever said that to yourself?
 

Everywhere you look there are articles, videos, and advertisements stating the need to shut off our negative thoughts and be more positive.  While I am all about viewing life from the perspective of “what you can do” versus “what you can't do,”  I also understand that turning off negative thoughts is not a light switch that can be turned off with enough willpower!

Did you know that?

  • Inside the multiple layers of your brain, deep within, is an electrical system so alive that with every thought you are firing and wiring synaptic connections.
  • Every time you learn something new you make a new connection in your brain.
  • Your mind and body are connected by chemical releases we like to call “feelings” or “emotions.
  • Most of our actions are taken in order to emotionally feel the same way we did yesterday.


So why can’t you just stop being negative?
 

Because you have wired your brain and your body to think certain thoughts and have certain feelings. You have done this so well and for so long that those connections are stronger than ever.

Moving from negative to positive is a physical process.

Start to think of your brain as a garden.

Your job is to plant enough new thoughts, emotions and experiences that your current connections automatically get pruned away.  When your garden is full and vibrant, you will naturally start to remove some of the older, unhealthy plants that don’t serve your garden anymore.

In the neuroscience world (like in the gardening world) it is called pruning.  You see, you’re a human being and your nature is to be successful…you’re built that way.  With a little attention you can shift in the right direction.

Start small, chose to learn something new and begin to create new experiences in your life. Here are some ways to do this:

  • Read up on a subject matter that interests you.
  • Take a different route to work.
  • Eat at a different restaurant.
  • Start-up a conversation with someone new.

 
As we learn something new, we fire a new synaptic connection. As we experience something new, we get our body involved and feel differently. 


The more you gain new knowledge and experiences, the more you can wire and fire your brain with brand new connections.  The more you repeat your learning and experiences, the more current is sent to these new connections.

If your brain is busy wiring and firing your new thoughts, feelings and emotions, it is not signaling your old ones.

Your job from this day forward is to:

  • Slow down.
  • Pay attention.
  • Learn, grow and expand.


This is how change is made and finally you can STOP being so negative.

To your future!

 

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